A trans parent talks about the primarily positive experience he had giving birth in a hospital, and how he went about it. Considering the awful treatment trans people can face at hospitals, this was a very helpful experience I want to share
We started our birth plan with a section on language. We made a single page copy of just this part in large print both for our hospital file, and for the door of our room in the birthing centre.
Some language before we go further
- j wallace identifies as a transman. ONLY male pronouns are appropriate when speaking about him.
- At no time should anyone ask about the mum, the mommy or similar words. At no time should anyone be called lady, mummy or any similar words.
- j will be the baby’s Abba (Hebrew for Dad) and Bear will be the baby’s Papa.
- Bear and j are each other’s husbands. Husband or partner are appropriate words.
- Bear is to be j’s alternate decision maker if j is unable to make decisions for some reason.
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